Should we forgive? Yes. Should we listen? Of course. Do we have to stay? Absolutely not. Sometimes, suffice it to say, apologies simply aren’t enough. While it’s commendable that one seemingly acknowledges their mistakes, actions, inactions or whatever role they played in a situation-gone bad, doing so does

The year is 2017, 21st century. Much has changed over the decades, especially men and women. At one point in time, men and women served the sole purpose of being bonded together in monogamy, exercising classic gender roles. As time went on, goals of achieving monogamy seemed to have been

At one point or another, whether in the stage of getting to know one another, dating or the exclusivity of a relationship, the subject of cellular phones arises. While everyone’s perspectives seem to vary, the topic continues to create much controversy for some. In addition, while the subject has

The subject of past relationships can be haunting. Either we’ve made mistakes in our past and are fearful our new mate will judge us from it, or we’ve been hurt so bad that we’re too emotional to discuss it. Regardless, past relationships are a complexity that we

At last, the sequel has been completed. Every action has an outcome. With his sex addiction now under control, Haze must now endure the aftermath of his choices. Believing to have it all figured out, he soon learns how everything isn't always what it seems. As much as he's evolved,

Hopefully, we’ve all learned a few things about red flags and how to identify them (if not, reference previous article titled R & R: Rationalizing Red Flags [https://www.verywise1.com/2014/06/14/r-r-rationalizing-red-flags/]. Now, it’s time to review some of the Green Flags. Every so often, we

First and foremost, this article is primarily for the men. However, ladies, you are highly advised to review this material as well. Doing so may assist you if/when evaluating a potential mate in your future endeavors. Also, you are most certainly encouraged to pass this piece along to your

Now that we've successfully graduated from Cheating 101: What is cheating? [https://www.verywise1.com/2015/01/19/cheating-101-whats-considered-cheating/] the time has come to complete the next course and discover exactly 'why' we cheat. Previously, we reviewed the definitions of cheating, the different types and precisely why each type is

“Why wasn't she good enough?” (a letter from the Good guy) Dear Bad guys, She opened herself up, let you in and even sacrificed. She didn’t even hesitate putting forth an effort. Yet and still, you cheated on her. You betrayed her trust, and rather than give her your

Men, assuming you’ve graduated from the Chivalry 101 course (see previous article titled: Chivalry 101 [https://www.verywise1.com/2015/08/27/chivalry-101]), it’s time to move on to gender roles. Fellas, please understand, one of the main components as to why many women may seem so self

Making my debut as a novelist, "Reality" is a work of fiction that follows the events of Haze, a Therapist who seems to solve everyone's problems except his own. As he battles his sex addition, the inescapable friend zone and a world of lies and deceit, he begins to realize

Breakups are a part of life. Yes, as much as you may not see your life without your mate, it's possible that a breakup could occur. By no means is it inevitable nor a guarantee, but by all means very possible. This is the logic that many people sometimes ignore

Dark. Lonely. Unbearable. The friend zone. We’ve all heard of it before. The friend zone is an area where people go when they’re restricted to a platonic relationship with someone. Usually, when someone is put there, they have interest beyond a platonic connection. But for various reasons, they’

It’s no secret that people seem to get along better with the opposite sex. Women prefer the company of men rather than their girlfriends. Men prefer the company of women rather than their homeboys. Either way, the question always arises as to whether or not opposite sex friends can

“Trust is earned in drops but lost in buckets” A wise woman once recited the above phrase to me while explaining the concept of trust. In layman’s terms, the above phrase explains how trust is earned slowly but lost entirely upon the discovery of a lie. Currently, the average

So many thoughts and opinions arise when the word “chivalry” is spoken. Some believe chivalry is dead. Others believe it’s still alive but goes unnoticed and unappreciated. When it comes down to it, opinions are opinions. But when it comes to chivalry, it isn’t a matter of opinion

Some call it over analyzing. Some may even call it petty. But, in every way, shape and form, the people in our lives, aside from family, all fit into a category. Often enough, at times we may become stressed because we can’t figure out where exactly we stand in

In many relationships, there usually comes a time where we get comfortable. We get comfortable not only with ourselves, but with our routine. Often times we lose sight of the little things that count in regards to expressing our appreciation of one another. This stands true not only in relationships,

Cheating has many variations. For the most part, people believe cheating simply implies having sex with someone other than their mate. This is far from the truth. By definition, cheating is: defrauding, swindling, deceiving and eluding. Cheating is also defined as knowing the rules and finding a way to break

> 1.) How long should we wait to have sex? Obviously, generations have evolved. Ideally, most individuals were groomed to journey down the path of accomplishing matrimonial goals prior to engaging in sexual activity. As times have changed, so have belief structures. From the Silent Generation (traditionalists) to the Millennials (current)

* Sex and money are bargaining items * The word "love" is lost in translation * Communication is nonexistent * Common sense isn't common * Families have been stripped * Relationships are forbidden * Courtship is a foreign term * Responsibility is unwanted * Negativity has conquered * Morals have diminished * Chivalry is misjudged * Remorse is vacant * Loyalty is falsified

Fellas, I'm confident many of you may have driven yourselves crazy while attempting to understand women. So much so that you've probably given up a long time ago. A wise woman once said "women don't even understand women". Now, that doesn't imply that women are too difficult to figure out,