Have I told you...


In many relationships, there usually comes a time where we get comfortable. We get comfortable not only with ourselves, but with our routine. Often times we lose sight of the little things that count in regards to expressing our appreciation of one another. This stands true not only in relationships, but friendships as well. Family, friends, co-workers, subordinates and especially our mates are all included. What many don’t realize is that the little things aren’t as “little” as thought to be.

Ask yourself, when was the last time you showed appreciation to someone? What was the last thing you did to show your mate that you loved them? When was the last time you told your Mother that you loved her? How long has it been since you told your team at work that they did a good job? No guilt intended. In life we all get caught up in the many challenges and obstacles of our daily experience thus distracting us from noticing these things. Nevertheless, taking the time to do these “little things” can most definitely go a long way.

Forgetting to do these things are one thing, but what makes matters worse is when one complains about others not doing the same for them. In other words, one shouldn’t complain that no one shows them any appreciation if they themselves don’t do the same. Like always, we should take a moment to evaluate ourselves before critiquing others. A Hallmark card. A phone call. A hug. A visit. Treating them to lunch. A regular “I appreciate all that you do”. Simplicity.

It seems to come so easily for one to identify the negative traits in individuals. However, identifying the positive traits seems to be an uncommon occurrence. So, take the time. Make the phone call. Send a text message. If they mean something to you, let them know. Don’t assume they’re mind readers and can read your actions. Sometimes people need to hear it, they need to see it, they need to hear AND see it. Also keep in mind, tomorrow isn’t a guarantee. One of the biggest regrets people have is not telling people how they truly felt when they had the opportunity to. Food for thought.